Question from: “Thinking About Divorce”

Betty Wills

Dear Betty – I have been married for over twenty years.  The marriage isn’t a bad one, but it isn’t all that great, either.  I stayed because of the kids, but now the kids are grown with families of their own.  My wife let herself go, gained weight, and now she can’t do many of the physical things we used to do together because she is out of shape. Our sex life hasn’t been very active, either.  To me, sex is the glue that binds.  She could take it or leave it, and would rather leave it. We’ve talked about it over and over again, but she just doesn’t get it. We live in two different worlds.  I want to live an active life, do things I’ve always wanted to do, and I want to share it with someone who cares enough about me and her own self-image to maintain an active fitness level.  Am I asking for too much?

ANSWER: Sounds like your marriage is in a rut, and the only difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions.  Marriages should be comfortable, not ho-hum. This is the 21st century.  People are living longer, are more health-conscious, and are much more active much later in life, sexually, mentally and physically.  Your wife needs to get with the program for her own well-being if not for the marriage.

Since she doesn’t care that much about sex, you could get naked and chase her around the house.  One look at you will give her incentive to run.  Running is good exercise for both of you.  Before you know it, she’ll lose weight, feel better about herself, and may even let you catch her once in a while.  You’ll stay fit, have a little fun, and never have to leave the house.  If you get bored with the house, take it to the mountains, but watch out for grizzly bears.  If one starts chasing you, remember…you only have to outrun the wife.

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A man ran a classified ad:
"Wife wanted".
Next day he received a hundred letters.
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