Question from: “Do I believe or not believe.”

Betty Wills

Recently, I heard gossip that he is back to his cheating ways, although he denies it.  I have a strong suspicion that the gossip is true as I was one of his women with whom he had an affair while still living with his wife.

Should I cut this player loose now or stick around hoping the gossip is untrue?
 
ANSWER: Believe it, or not your situation is not unique, especially the “smooth and flirty public figure” part.  The name Bill Clinton comes to mind.  In a survey of American women, they were asked, “Would you sleep with President Clinton?”, and 86% replied, “Not again.”

Unfortunately, there are quite a few married men on the islands and beyond who maintain a second family, have children with multiple women, and/or keep a mistress or two on the side.  Their behavior gives new meaning to Genesis 1:28 wherein God said, “Be fruitful and multiply”. I don’t think He intended it as a green light for men to plant their seed in every garden they visit.  Sheesh!!  One guy bites an apple, and now they all want to be Johnny Appleseed.

You already know the extent of your man’s fidelity.  He is married to someone else, and living with you. Not what I consider a very strong foundation on which to build a healthy, loving relationship. 

As for the gossip – well, it could go either way, but usually where there’s smoke, there’s fire.   Suspicion usually results from a gut feeling, and gut feelings are instinctual.  They are also honest, which is more than I can say for married men who cheat on their wives.  I’ve found it’s always best to listen to your gut.  It really doesn’t matter if the gossip is true.  What does matter is the fact you don’t trust him, and trust is essential in a loving relationship.  Without it, you have nothing.
 
Joke Of The Day
 
Eighty percent of married men cheat in America. 
The rest cheat in Europe.