Her comments are silly, ignorant and sexist; and makes her "beauty and brains" comment show how ignorant she is about the world that many women live in.
 
I have no knowledge of Ms Betty's world and quite frankly do not care.  Grow up Ms Betty and stop giving "whiteness" advice on topics of which you have no knowledge of.
 
Linda Petrusi
Portland, Oregon
USA

Betty Wills responds: Sorry, but I never viewed sex as a struggle, unless he was just being uncooperative!  Sounds like Linda from Portland may need some to knock the edge off, cuz she sounds really angry.   Well, at least she read the column, and hopefully will keep reading it.  It may help her get past her anger.  But, ya gotta love freedom of speech!   Actually, I'm not all that white!  I've got a great tan going from living on Bonaire, and it's hard to tell me apart from some of my lighter-skinned Antillean sisters.  How silly it sounds when she says there are cultures who would kill a women for dressing sexy at a cocktail party.  Does she really believe women in such cultures would even attend a cocktail party?  Forget the cleavage!